Rebuilding Hope and Faith After Loss: A Guide for Christian Widows and Widowers

Webmaster Note: Guest Post by Sara Bailey from TheWidow. The views and opinions expressed in the article are those of the author, and may or may not necessarily reflect those of ad Dei Gloriam Ministries.

Christian widows and widowers who have moved beyond the first waves of grief often discover a quieter, harder ache: life after early grief can feel both empty and crowded with memories. Friends may assume the worst is over, yet the soul still wonders how to live with faith when the future looks nothing like the vows once spoken. There is a real tension between honoring spouse memory and longing for a hope for renewal that doesn’t feel like betrayal. Faith-centered grief recovery makes room for both love and longing. A meaningful life can grow again.

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How Christian Families Can Embrace Self-Care to Grow Stronger Together

Webmaster Note: Guest Post by Lucille Rosetti from The Bereaved Blog, a valuable independent contributor to our blog. The views and opinions expressed in the article are those of the author, and may or may not necessarily reflect those of ad Dei Gloriam Ministries.

For busy Christian families balancing work, church commitments, caregiving, and kids’ needs while trying to take faith seriously, family health challenges can make daily life feel like a series of emergencies. The core tension is real: holistic wellness can sound like a luxury or a secular distraction when energy is already thin and spiritual formation matters most. Yet family self-care and faith-based self-care are not selfish add-ons; they can become shared practices of stewardship, peace, and love that strengthen a household from the inside out. When Christian families approach wellness together, burdens become clearer, support becomes practical, and hope becomes steady.

Read the entire article on our Original Blog for valuable family-friendly self-care tips.

How to Use Technology with Intention So You Can Stay Grounded, Present, and Spiritually Connected

Webmaster Note: Guest Post by Sara Bailey from TheWidow. The views and opinions expressed in the article are those of the author, and may or may not necessarily reflect those of ad Dei Gloriam Ministries.

In a culture defined by speed and distraction, technology often becomes the noise that drowns out the still, sacred voice within. Yet, when used prayerfully, it can also become the tool that helps us return to stillness, to presence, and to God. This is not about rejecting devices but redeeming them, so that every click, swipe, and creation can serve the renewal of your soul.

Most of us spend large parts of our day connected, reading, responding, or simply scrolling, often without realizing how much of our attention has been given away. The challenge isn’t just how much time we spend online, but how rarely we pause to ask whether that time restores or depletes us. The pace of digital life can quietly erode reflection, making stillness feel inefficient and prayer feel optional. This isn’t a moral failure, it’s the nature of our environment. But followers of Christ are called to live by intention, not impulse. Reclaiming digital time begins by treating attention as a sacred resource, something to be offered purposefully, not consumed casually. Here are small ways to begin:

Webmaster Note 2: Many people believe that the various types of media and technology are inherently evil. The truth is that most of the various platforms, in and of themselves, are actually neutral. It is how media is used that results in it being good, bad, or neutral. In her article, Sara provides many good tips on using media for good.

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Beyond Homework: Creative After-School Paths for Christian Families

Webmaster Note: Guest Post by Sara Bailey from TheWidow. The views and opinions expressed in the article are those of the author, and may or may not necessarily reflect those of ad Dei Gloriam Ministries.

Christian families are often looking for after-school activities that nurture faith, curiosity, and character at the same time, without feeling like an extension of the school day. The familiar options—sports teams, tutoring, church youth group—can be wonderful, yet many parents sense there is more out there. The deeper challenge is helping children discover God’s world as wide, surprising, and full of callings they haven’t imagined yet.

Read the entire article on our Original Blog to learn how to encourage children to enjoy faith-friendly activities that stimulate learning without compromising your family and Christian values.

Nurturing Wonder: Helping Children Grow into Self-Motivated, Faith-Filled Learners

Webmaster Note: Guest Post by Lucille Rosetti from The Bereaved Blog, a valuable independent contributor to our blog. The views and opinions expressed in the article are those of the author, and may or may not necessarily reflect those of ad Dei Gloriam Ministries.

Children are born curious. They touch, ask, and imagine; not to test your patience, but to understand the world God made. For Christian parents, this curiosity isn’t something to control, it’s something to steward. When shaped with love and faith, it becomes the foundation of wisdom, confidence, and lifelong learning. Read the entire article on our Original Blog. This article contains many excellent learning tips for children and their parents and/or teacher. It addresses such important subjects, such as curiosity, learning tips, study habits and much more.

Fox Business Host Declares Thanksgiving is a Secular Holiday

While flipping TV channels this morning, I happened upon Stu Varney's "My Take" on the Fox Business Network. He was speaking of the Thanksgiving holiday. Here is a transcribed exerpt:

"Thanksgiving is a uniquely American celebration. Everywhere else in the world, it is just Thursday. But here, it's a very special day. It's not a patriotic celebration, that's July 4th.

So far... so good. But then he proclaims "It's not a religious celebration. That's Christmas, or Easter for Christians. Thanksgiving is just that: a day to be thankful for the friends and family we hope to have around us.”. He then commented on typical foods, conversations and other thoughts. You can watch the entire two minute take at:

Stu's Take on Thanksgiving.

First, I want to note that Mr Varney is not a left-wing loon, but fairly conservative and a very likable well mannered host. But I must take exception to his comment that "Thanksgiving is not a religious celebration". This would have certainly come as a shock to the Pilgrims who celebrated that first Thanksgiving in 1621. Perhaps Mr Varney meant that it is no longer thought of as a religious holiday, since many, particularly those who have attended classes in the public school system in the past several decades, have long forgotten the true original meaning of the holiday. In that, he would certainly be correct.

In addition, I want to recognize and thank Mr Varney for acknowledging Christmas as a religious holiday. For the majority, Christmas, like Thanksgiving, has become a secular holiday in which the true meaning has been long forgotten. Each year, we're bombarded with so-called Christmas movies in which Jesus Christ has been replaced with Santa Clause, without even a hint of its true meaning. For those who would like to know more about our country's true Biblical Christian roots, we invite you to check out some of our previous writings.

America’s Christian Heritage.

Biblical Roots of America’s Thanksgiving Holiday.

Hope everyone has a very Happy and Blessed Thanksgiving!

Essential First Steps for Families After Closing on a New Home

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Buying a house marks more than a financial milestone—it represents the beginning of a new chapter for your family. Once the papers are signed and the keys are in your hands, the work of shaping a safe, stable, and faith-centered household begins. These early days set the tone for years to come, and the choices you make immediately after closing matter greatly. Think of them as foundations, not just for the structure you purchased, but for the rhythms of family life inside it. By approaching this transition thoughtfully, you can protect your investment, nurture your loved ones, and open space for God’s guidance in your new surroundings.

Secure the Home Inside and Out

One of the first priorities is protecting your household from preventable risks. Changing locks, adding lighting, and checking every entry point gives your family peace of mind before your first night in the house. This is also the moment to walk your property line and think about practical safety layers. Whether it’s a new fence, outdoor motion lights, or landscaping choices, being intentional early will keep intruders and accidents at bay. Many families overlook how important the outside perimeter can be in shaping daily comfort. Reviewing proven methods of securing your property’s perimeter ensures you can rest without worry, confident that your new home is both welcoming and protected.

Review and Transfer the Builder Warranty

If your home is newly built, don’t forget to examine your warranty documents. Many builders provide coverage for structural elements, systems, and workmanship, but you must confirm the transfer is complete and active under your name. Missing this step could leave you paying for expensive repairs that were otherwise covered. Mark the expiration dates of each category—roofing, HVAC, foundation—and set calendar reminders. Families that stay proactive in this area often save thousands of dollars and preserve peace of mind. Understanding the importance of a structural warranty helps you lean on protection already in place, with some warranties like 2-10 offering up to 10 years of structural coverage.

Learn the Utilities and Shut-Off Points

Water, electricity, and gas are lifelines in your home, and knowing where the shut-offs are located isn’t optional—it’s essential. If a pipe bursts or a gas leak occurs, minutes can mean the difference between minor damage and major disaster. Take time now to explore your basement, crawl space, or utility closet to find the controls, label them clearly, and explain their function to older family members. Keep a simple flashlight nearby so you’re never caught fumbling in the dark during an emergency.

Organize Important Documents Immediately

Closing day leaves you with a stack of paperwork thicker than most people expect. Deeds, loan agreements, warranties, and receipts should never be tossed in a random drawer. Instead, purchase a fireproof lockbox or filing system to keep everything protected and easy to find. Make it a family standard from day one by organizing closing documents safely and storing them in a place everyone can access if needed. This habit not only saves time when tax season comes but also reduces stress when questions about property lines or loan terms arise. Family members who step in during illness or travel will also benefit from knowing exactly where these papers are kept.

Test Every Safety Detector

Fire and carbon monoxide are invisible dangers that no new homeowner should ignore. Even if the previous owner assured you the detectors were fine, test them yourself and replace batteries immediately. Consider upgrading to interconnected models that alert the entire home if one sensor detects a problem. Children, elderly family members, and pets rely on you to keep these systems working flawlessly. Schedule reminders on your phone for regular checks, turning safety into a habit rather than a once-and-done task.

Prepare Financially for Home Repairs

Homeownership doesn’t end with a mortgage payment—repairs and replacements will come faster than you think. A broken appliance, roof leak, or unexpected plumbing issue can derail family budgets if no reserve is set aside. Starting a separate savings account for housing emergencies removes the temptation to dip into funds meant for tithes, groceries, or schooling. Even modest contributions add up over time and cushion you against costly surprises.

Find a Faithful New Church Home

Beyond locks and documents, your new community will shape your family’s spiritual growth. Seeking out a local church where worship, teaching, and fellowship align with your beliefs ensures your transition doesn’t stall your walk with Christ. Visit several congregations, talk to leaders, and observe how children’s ministries or outreach programs fit your family’s needs. Remember, a church is more than a building—it’s the people who will pray with you, support you, and hold you accountable in seasons of both joy and hardship. Relocating can feel disorienting, but anchoring yourself in a congregation quickly restores rhythm and belonging.

These first steps aren’t simply chores—they are investments in safety, stability, and spiritual well-being. Let each measure remind you that a house may be purchased in a day, but a home is built through daily care and prayer.

Roots of Renewal: How Gardening Strengthens Body and Mind for Older Adults

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Gardening isn’t just about flowers and vegetables; it’s a full-body, mind-centering ritual that offers older adults a sense of vitality. Each seed planted carries more than the promise of a harvest—it offers strength, focus, and the quiet satisfaction of creating life from the soil. For those who feel the tug of time in their joints or the weight of isolation, the garden becomes an anchor. It's a place where movement has purpose, food has meaning, and every green shoot feels like proof that something good is still unfolding.

Physical Strength Rooted in Routine

Every time you stoop to pull a weed or push a trowel into the earth, you’re not just tending a plant—you’re tending yourself. The repetitive, natural movements of gardening contribute to building strength with garden tasks. Over time, these motions work muscles in the back, shoulders, and arms, improving balance and flexibility without the sterile feel of a gym. Older adults who make gardening a habit often find that even simple chores like carrying soil or turning compost help them maintain endurance while easing stiffness that might otherwise creep into daily life.

Sharpening the Mind in the Quiet Hours

There’s something about the garden’s rhythm that organizes the mind. As you water rows or plan the next season’s crops, focus sharpens. Science supports this: gardening improves mental sharpness, helping older adults sustain memory and problem-solving skills through hands-on engagement. It’s not just about the tasks—it’s about the decisions. Which plant needs pruning? How much sunlight do those tomatoes crave? These small choices keep the brain firing, providing a sense of agency that’s vital for mental health as the years go by.

Stress Falls Away in the Green

Even brief moments in a garden can feel like stepping outside of time. The air smells of earth, the sun warms your skin, and your heart rate begins to settle. Studies confirm that reduced stress through garden time isn’t just a poetic notion; it’s a measurable effect. Nature’s pace is slower, and when you match it, tension drains. Older adults often describe their gardens as sanctuaries, spaces where anxiety fades and a deep, restorative calm takes root alongside the flowers.

Feeding Your Body from the Ground Up

When you grow food, you change the way you eat. Picking a cucumber from your own vine has a way of silencing the siren call of the snack aisle. It’s not only about nutrition—it’s about empowerment. Research shows that soil microbes boost gut health, reinforcing what many gardeners already feel in their bones: the connection between healthy soil and a healthier body. Replace a bag of chips with a handful of sun-warmed cherry tomatoes, and you’ll feel the shift in energy. Hunger quiets. Vitality returns. And it happens right in your backyard.

A Simple Start That Grows with You

If you’ve never gardened before, don’t be intimidated. There’s no prize for growing a full-scale farm on day one. Experts recommend you start small with sun planning—maybe a few herbs on a windowsill or a raised bed of lettuce by the porch. Pay attention to how the light moves across your yard, how the soil feels in your hand, and how much time you actually enjoy spending outside. Build slowly. Each small success is a seed of confidence that grows into bigger harvests later.

Making Gardening Accessible for Every Body

Age can bring aches, but it doesn’t have to bring an end to the garden. With a few adjustments, anyone can dig in. Tools like raised beds simplify gardening, allowing you to work without bending or kneeling for long periods. Lightweight tools, padded kneelers, and container gardens all help make the joy of cultivation available to hands and backs that need a gentler approach. Gardening isn’t about doing more; it’s about doing what fits.

Growing Community Alongside Your Crops

A garden doesn’t have to be a solitary pursuit. For many older adults, community gardens ease loneliness by offering a space where neighbors share seeds, swap stories, and celebrate each other’s harvests. These shared plots become more than a place to plant—they become social roots, connecting people who might otherwise feel alone. The conversations between rows often bloom just as much as the vegetables.

Eating Well, Living Better

Here’s where the garden touches more than the table—it reshapes habits. By leaning on fresh produce and healthy lifestyle choices for seniors, it becomes easier to skip the chips and reach for something living, vibrant, and grown by your own hands. Eating this way doesn’t just quiet cravings—it fuels energy, brightens mood, and makes every bite feel like an investment in your own health.

Gardening is not a miracle cure, but it’s close. It’s strength without the strain of the gym, mindfulness without the meditation app, and food without the label. Whether you’re digging deep into the soil or simply potting a basil plant for the windowsill, the benefits stack up. One day at a time. One plant at a time. And for older adults especially, every little green victory is proof that it’s never too late to grow.

Summer Unscripted: Fresh Ideas for Kids to Learn, Grow, and Explore

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Summer arrives with a promise of freedom and discovery, but for many parents, that promise quickly morphs into a logistical challenge. How do you keep your child engaged when school’s out, screens beckon, and neighborhood options wear thin by mid-July? If you’re a parent either struggling to find options or just hoping to go beyond the expected, there are plenty of creative, enriching paths to explore. These activities can spark curiosity, build confidence, and introduce your child to new possibilities—all while keeping summer fun and fresh.

Supporting Artistic Expression

Children are natural creators, and summer is the perfect time to let them embrace their inner artist. Enroll them in a local community center art class or supply them with the tools to dive into at-home projects. Think beyond crayons and coloring books—introduce them to pottery, abstract painting, or collage-making from recycled materials. The goal isn’t to create masterpieces but to give kids permission to explore self-expression in vibrant, unstructured ways.

Creating Art with AI Tools

As technology blends with creativity, AI-generated art is quickly becoming one of the most exciting new avenues for self-expression. Your child can type in a prompt to create an image, then customize the style, colors, and lighting to make it their own. Handy online tools offer ways to generate AI art that can be printed, displayed, or even turned into comic books or cards. This activity blends digital literacy with imaginative thinking, and it’s perfect for kids interested in both tech and visual storytelling.

Coding Isn’t Just for Adults

You don’t need to wait until high school to introduce your child to coding. Platforms like Scratch, Tynker, and Bitsbox make programming accessible, playful, and rewarding for even elementary schoolers. Coding builds problem-solving skills and encourages your child to think logically while creating their own games, stories, or animations. Plus, it’s a quiet activity that still feels like screen time, which is often a win-win scenario for kids and parents alike.

Giving Them the Stage

While some kids are shy, others love the spotlight—and theater arts offer a unique outlet for both. Drama workshops, improv classes, and puppet-making groups give children a space to practice empathy, storytelling, and self-confidence. If there’s no theater camp nearby, try homegrown alternatives: help them write a script and stage a backyard production with neighbors or siblings. It’s a collaborative process that can help children understand different perspectives and think creatively on their feet.

Encouraging Entrepreneurism

Even young kids can dip a toe into the world of small business with surprisingly rewarding results. Instead of the traditional lemonade stand, encourage your child to brainstorm services they can realistically provide pet-sitting, car washing, tech help for grandparents, or tutoring younger peers. Walking them through simple budgeting and marketing not only develops math and communication skills but instills a deep sense of ownership. A summer venture like this can spark a lifetime of self-starter mentality.

Volunteering as a Family

Getting your child involved in volunteer work teaches compassion, responsibility, and perspective. Look for family-friendly opportunities like sorting donations at a food bank, reading to seniors, or walking dogs at a local shelter. Some organizations even run youth-focused programs that combine volunteering with learning modules and peer collaboration. When kids give their time for something bigger than themselves, they come away with more than a line on a college resume—they grow as humans.

Leveraging the Magic of Gardening

You might not think of gardening as a high-energy summer activity, but it taps into both science and patience in deeply fulfilling ways. Give your child a small patch of soil or a few containers, and let them grow herbs, vegetables, or flowers from seed. In caring for something living, kids learn consistency, observation, and environmental stewardship. Watching something sprout and bloom under their care gives them a quiet sense of pride that's hard to match.

Instead of viewing summer as an obstacle, it helps to see it as a blank canvas. Whether your child is curious about languages, plants, tech, or performance, there’s a way to harness their interests into something memorable. These months can foster emotional growth, academic development, and lifelong passions if given the right outlets. And when the first day of school rolls back around, your child won’t just return older—they’ll come back transformed.

Duty, Honor, Country

This weekend, and particularly on Monday, we set aside a special day to remember and honor our brave troops who made the ultimate sacrifice for our country so that we are able to enjoy the vast freedoms that we currently possess. I'm speaking or course about Memorial Day, a day of somber remembrance and gratitude.

This year, I'm posting an excerpt from his farewell address given by General Douglass MacArthur to the Corps of Cadets at West Point on May 12, 1962.

Duty, Honor, Country: Those three hallowed words reverently dictate what you ought to be, what you can be, what you will be. They are your rallying points: to build courage when courage seems to fail; to regain faith when there seems to be little cause for faith; to create hope when hope becomes forlorn.

Unhappily, I possess neither that eloquence of diction, that poetry of imagination, nor that brilliance of metaphor to tell you all that they mean.

The unbelievers will say they are but words, but a slogan, but a flamboyant phrase. Every pedant, every demagogue, every cynic, every hypocrite, every troublemaker, and I am sorry to say, some others of an entirely different character, will try to downgrade them even to the extent of mockery and ridicule.

But these are some of the things they do: They build your basic character. They mold you for your future roles as the custodians of the nation's defense. They make you strong enough to know when you are weak, and brave enough to face yourself when you are afraid. They teach you to be proud and unbending in honest failure, but humble and gentle in success; not to substitute words for actions, not to seek the path of comfort, but to face the stress and spur of difficulty and challenge; to learn to stand up in the storm but to have compassion on those who fall; to master yourself before you seek to master others; to have a heart that is clean, a goal that is high; to learn to laugh, yet never forget how to weep; to reach into the future yet never neglect the past; to be serious yet never to take yourself too seriously; to be modest so that you will remember the simplicity of true greatness, the open mind of true wisdom, the meekness of true strength.

They give you a temper of the will, a quality of the imagination, a vigor of the emotions, a freshness of the deep springs of life, a temperamental predominance of courage over timidity, of an appetite for adventure over love of ease. They create in your heart the sense of wonder, the unfailing hope of what next, and the joy and inspiration of life. They teach you in this way to be an officer and a gentleman.

And what sort of soldiers are those you are to lead? Are they reliable? Are they brave? Are they capable of victory? Their story is known to all of you. It is the story of the American man-at-arms. My estimate of him was formed on the battlefield many, many years ago, and has never changed. I regarded him then as I regard him now -- as one of the world's noblest figures, not only as one of the finest military characters, but also as one of the most stainless. His name and fame are the birthright of every American citizen. In his youth and strength, his love and loyalty, he gave all that mortality can give. .

He needs no eulogy from me or from any other man. He has written his own history and written it in red on his enemy's breast. But when I think of his patience under adversity, of his courage under fire, and of his modesty in victory, I am filled with an emotion of admiration I cannot put into words. He belongs to history as furnishing one of the greatest examples of successful patriotism. He belongs to posterity as the instructor of future generations in the principles of liberty and freedom. He belongs to the present, to us, by his virtues and by his achievements. In 20 campaigns, on a hundred battlefields, around a thousand campfires, I have witnessed that enduring fortitude, that patriotic self-abnegation, and that invincible determination which have carved his statue in the hearts of his people. From one end of the world to the other he has drained deep the chalice of courage.

As I listened to those songs [from the glee club], in memory's eye I could see those staggering columns of the First World War, bending under soggy packs, on many a weary march from dripping dusk to drizzling dawn, slogging ankle-deep through the mire of shell-shocked roads, to form grimly for the attack, blue-lipped, covered with sludge and mud, chilled by the wind and rain, driving home to their objective, and for many, to the judgment seat of God.

I do not know the dignity of their birth, but I do know the glory of their death. They died unquestioning, uncomplaining, with faith in their hearts, and on their lips the hope that we would go on to victory. Always, for them: Duty, Honor, Country; always their blood and sweat and tears, as we sought the way and the light and the truth.

God Bless our Brave Troops. May we never forget.

Memorial Day Tribute 2024

This weekend, and particularly on Monday, we set aside a special day to remember and honor our brave troops who made the ultimate sacrifice for our country. Without their sacrifice, we certainly would not be able to enjoy the vast freedoms that we currently possess. I'm speaking or course about Memorial Day, a day of somber remembrance and gratitude.

Unfortunately, for many folks, the holiday has devolved into cookouts, ball games, and Memorial Day sales. I got an email from a well-known orthodox ministry wishing everyone a “Happy Memorial Day” along with a link to their special Memorial Day sale. This ministry is usually one of the best and they typically assign great honors to our military, but I think they inadvertently dropped the ball on this.

We're sometimes approached by well-meaning folks that would like to offer their sincere appreciation for a family's loss, but simply don't know the best way. I'm certainly no expert, and there's probably no single “best way” but I'll attempt to offer some suggestions.

I typically try to refrain from saying “Happy Memorial Day”. For those Gold Star Families (families that have lost a loved one in their service to their country), Memorial Day is not a happy day, but a day of both bittersweet remembrance of their loved one and reflection on their lives together. We suggest expressing your appreciation of their great sacrifice and then follow their lead. Some might prefer to grieve by sharing stories of their loved one, while for others, they may want to remember in silence, but just being there and offering support is usually very comforting.

Let us also not forget the fellow troops of those who lost members of their squads. Members of the military are very close, sometimnes even closer than blood relatives. Most of us know of many veterans who still suffer from depression, and it is often much worse on Memorial Day weekends.

Other ways of showing support is flying American flags, attending Memorial Day parades, and teaching your children proper respect for our veterans. Yes, we can have our barbeques and other celebrations, but we must never forget those who make it all possible. God Bless our Brave Troops. May we never forget.

Lost After the Loss of a Loved One? It May Be Time For a Move

Guest Post by Camille Johnson from The Bereaver Blog. The views and opinions expressed in the article and associated links are those of the author, and may or may not necessarily reflect those of ad Dei Gloriam Ministries. We have no relationship with any of the organizations linked within the article.

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Grieving the loss of a loved one or thing brings deep sorrow, and it can seem impossible in some cases. But by drawing close to God and taking practical steps each day to maintain your health, you can grieve healthily and come out stronger than ever.

While it’s reassuring to know this is all in God’s plan, and your church community can be the best support you can find at times like these, it may not feel that way in the moment. Suddenly finding yourself alone can be terrifying. Factor in the many changes that you’ll have to deal with at this time, and it may seem like an unbearable challenge. While it may seem drastic, after weighing the pros and cons, sometimes the best way to move on is to actually move.

Take good care of yourself

When the person you’ve shared your life with has passed away, even meeting daily needs can seem overwhelming. Take care of the body first–you’ll need to eat well, to exercise (even a walk around the block), and to try to get good sleep. It’s easy to fall into a funk, skipping the dishes and laundry, skipping meals. Make contact with friends and family who you won’t be embarrassed when they see that way, but who will also motivate you to get back up again. Even just calling someone sometimes can give you the perspective you need to take better care of yourself.

When you’re between houses, or if you’ve decided to move to a new town, don’t let your wellness visits lapse. Because you’re grieving you might miss some of the warning signs when it comes to your own health. If you haven’t been sleeping or eating well, this can exacerbate any health concerns.

Fortunately, you can book a virtual doc visit online if you have yet to establish care with a doctor in your new town. Simply search for "online doctors" or "online medical care" in your favorite internet browser. Online platforms make telehealth an easy option so you get the care you need. And whether you have insurance or not, you can still meet with an online physician to discuss your needs. Look for an option with same-day appointments.

Lighten possessions

Memories of your life partner will linger on, especially at home where you’re surrounded by their earthly belongings. You’ll undoubtedly go through a myriad of emotions, running the gamut from sadness to guilt. However, dealing with your late spouse’s possessions is a crucial part of letting go and moving on, and an unavoidable one at that.

In truth, this is an opportune time to declutter your own belongings and downsize. As this is an emotionally-charged task, it’s wise to enlist the help of a trusted friend or loved one, not just to do the heavy lifting, but also to give you comfort in the process. You might even find it’s an empowering part of the healing process.

As a rule of thumb, sort belongings into piles. While emotions may dictate that you hold on to collections and meaningful keepsakes, you also have to assess whether these will serve you or just add to clutter. It’s good practice to take photos of meaningful items or pass them on to loved ones, as well as keep what’s useful and truly priceless. The rest can be sold, donated, or thrown away.

Give yourself permission to start anew

Sometimes moving away mitigates grief. After all, it’s painful to return to an empty household that’s now devoid of a presence that was once constant. As daunting a decision as moving to a new home may be, it’s one that will save you money in the long run as living expenses decrease, which you can put forward for your future or use to offset the impact of a lost income.

It’s necessary to follow a few steps to ensure a financially sound decision. Take into account how much you’re likely to make in the sale of your home. Next, look at the costs involved in selling your home, buying a new one, moving expenses, and so forth. And while it’s a good idea to get help from people you trust or consult a professional like a financial advisor, remember that the decision is ultimately yours to make.

Prioritize your needs

Know that your safety and comfort are of the essence, especially if you depended on your late spouse for care. With that in mind, seniors sometimes do best in independent living. This option can mean less work because many facilities handle housekeeping and some health support. Independent living can also include a senior-friendly environment and social life. You may want to search the internet for more information regarding the advantages and disadvantages of assisted living.

The death of your spouse may give you a sense of an ending, but it’s undeniably also the start of a new chapter. There’s nowhere to go but forward. Let grief run its course and in due time, you’ll find the right decisions for your own future.

How Goal-Setting Can Move You Through Grief

Guest Post by Lucille Rosetti from The Bereaver Blog. The views and opinions expressed in the article and associated links are those of the author, and may or may not necessarily reflect those of ad Dei Gloriam Ministries. We have no relationship with any of the organizations linked within the article.

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Grieving the loss of a loved one or thing brings deep sorrow, and it can seem impossible in some cases. But by drawing close to God and taking practical steps each day to maintain your health, you can grieve healthily and come out stronger than ever.

Whether you're grieving the death of a loved one, the end of a friendship, or a shattered dream, there are no shortcuts through the pain. However, seeking God's presence can strengthen your faith because you rely on something bigger than your crushed spirit. And setting healthy goals can help you heal while boosting your confidence in the process. Here are some some practical tips for navigating grief.

Prioritize Quiet Time

First of all, as critical as it is to spend time with friends and family while grieving, no one can provide you with the comfort, grace, and wisdom that God can. Make sure you are making time to spend in His presence every day.

Devote time to prayer, and don't hold back your feelings or thoughts. Read the Bible at various points in your day for truth and wisdom for your situation. And consider keeping a journal where you write your most honest thoughts and emotions. No one ever has to read what you write, which means you can be raw. And you can also use your journal to set goals and track your progress.

Make Career Moves

Grief has a way of reminding us how short life is. If you are stuck in an overwhelming or unfulfilling job, this could be your chance to make a major change. Why not establish a path for a career you can be passionate about?

One practical step is to return to school for a bachelor's, master's, or doctorate. These days, many online programs allow you to earn a degree while still tending to your full-time job and other responsibilities.

Whether you are interested in business management, IT management, accounting, or any other field, you can earn an online business degree without leaving your house. Besides boosting your career prospects, achieving this goal could be a boon for your mental health.

Eat Whole Foods

It can be challenging to maintain a decent diet when you're grieving. Not only do anxiety and depression have a way of suppressing the appetite, but the physical symptoms of grief can sometimes make it hard to eat. When you have a craving, it might be for empty carbs and other comfort foods.

However, you must feed your body essential minerals and vitamins to function and keep up with grief's emotional and physical demands. Stick to lean proteins, healthy fats, fruits, vegetables, and other whole foods that will provide you with much-needed energy and benefit your long-term health.

Build a Fitness Routine

Regular exercise will not eliminate your grief, but it's a critical coping tool that can reduce depression, anxiety, and loneliness symptoms. The health benefits of maintaining a fitness routine are as broad and deep. Exercising can also provide opportunities to interact with others and keep your mind off of your grief for short moments. Fortunately, there are countless physical activities to try, including:

• Walking
• Running
• Weightlifting
• High intensity interval training (HIIT)
• Swimming
• Cycling
• Recreational sports

The key is to find one or more activities that you enjoy and commit to doing them at least five days a week. Your mind, body, and soul will thank you for it.

Listen to More Music

Listening to music can help you battle anxiety, stress, depression, and other common grief symptoms. Immerse yourself in worship music throughout the day. Listen to it on your morning commute, as you relax at home, and while you go through your daily workouts. It will boost your mood and help you keep your mind on heavenly things.

If you are experiencing heavy grief, don't rely on yourself to get through it. And don't depend solely on your friends and family either. Seek God with everything you have, set healthy goals you can attain, and ask God for grace to move your life in the right direction. He will respond because He is faithful!

The Family Chain

Between ice storms this week, my brothers and I made a quick trip to West Texas where our family bid a temporary goodbye to our uncle Magel. He was a great family man who is much loved by his surviving wife of over 50 years, and by his son, daughters and many grand-kids. I had not seen many of them for decades, and others I actually met for the first time. He left a great legacy by faithfully passing on his Christian values to his family.

A few years ago, I wrote an article on the differing attitudes toward death of Christians as opposed to that of non-believers. It was certainly difficult to temporarily lose Magel, but was made somewhat easier by the fact that we are assured of seeing him again one day. We only buried Magel’s earthly body. His spirit is still alive in the presence of our Lord as he awaits his final resurrected body.

In the funeral program, the family included a poem written by Ron Tranmer who has published numerous encouraging and inspirational poems for many occasions. I’d like to share this poetry for all those who are missing family members and are looking forward to being together again.

Broken Chain
(revised version)

We little knew that day
God would call your name.
In life we loved you dearly.
In death we do the same.

It broke our hearts to lose you
but you didn’t go alone,
for a part of us went with you
the day God called you home.

We’re left with loving memories
of the time we had with you,
and feel your love around us
in everything we do.

Our family chain is broken
and our lives are not the same,
But as God calls us one by one
the chain will link again.

The Circle Game

Almost every year around my birthday, a couple of favorite songs from my school daze inevitably pop into my head. This year, they were triggered by a conversation with my cousin Sandi about the great childhood days visiting my grandmother’s old country farm and home place.

The first was written by Neil Young, who holds the distinction of ranking second only to Bob Dylan in the number of volumes in my CD collection. Growing up in Canada, he often played in front of his many friends at his favorite hangout known as “Sugar Mountain”, in which only teenagers were admitted. On November 12, 1964 (his 19th birthday), Neil wrote the song Sugar Mountain lamenting the end of his teenage years when he could no longer hang out with his friends.

Oh, to live on Sugar Mountain
With the barkers and the colored balloons,
You can't be twenty on Sugar Mountain
Though you're thinking that
You're leaving there too soon.

While the younger band members continued to play the club, Neil struck out on his own. Shortly thereafter, fellow Canadian folk singer Joni Mitchell wrote a song for Mr Young called The Circle Game. My favorite version is the 1974 live performance that ended up on the “Miles of Aisles” album (think large vinyl CD with grooves for those under thirty), but I found a nice video with excellent graphics by Bob Marshall

In Ms Mitchell’s response, she offers hope for a bleak future.

So the years spin by and now the boy is twenty
Though his dreams have lost some grandeur coming true
There'll be new dreams, maybe better dreams and plenty
Before the last revolving year is through.

And the seasons they go round and round
And the painted ponies go up and down
We're captive on the carousel of time
We can't return we can only look
Behind from where we came
And go round and round and round
In the circle game.

Yet as Christians, our hope is not merely a wish or desire, but a rock-solid expectation based on revelation from God. While we are in some sense “captive on the carousel of time”, we serve a God that is not bound by space and time.

I would also contend that the Christian life is more like a spiral than a circle. Although some events tend to repeat themselves in our lives, we are growing and following a set plan for us as decreed by God before time began. Each year, we are being made into the image of Christ (Rom 8:29), although I seem to be getting there slower than many others. Nevertheless, in contrast to unbelievers, we can have this confident assurance that although we may face many hardships, we’ll never have to face them alone or under our own power.

Even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing. The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. For we do not preach ourselves, but Jesus Christ as Lord, and ourselves as your servants for Jesus' sake. For God, who said, "Let light shine out of darkness," made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ. But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us.

We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that his life may be revealed in our mortal body. So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you.

It is written: "I believed; therefore I have spoken." With that same spirit of faith we also believe and therefore speak, because we know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead will also raise us with Jesus and present us with you in his presence. All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God. Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. (2Cor 4:3-16)

So as we get older, we get closer and closer to the unseen, our real eternal life in which we’ll see our Savior face to face and be re-united with our loved ones who have gone on before. What a glorious day that will be.

Happy Mother's Day 2012

My mother went home to Jesus over a decade ago, but I still often thank God for being raised by such a godly woman. History is filled with the stories of the saints that God has raised up to do great things. Almost without exception, behind each one is the prayers of a godly mother. A mother leaves us many lessons, long after she's gone. Never underestimate the power of a godly mother.

The well-known evangelist, Billy Sunday once said, "There is more power in a mother's hand than in a king's scepter."

Billy Sunday's famous sermon on Motherhood can be read on our main website.

So, for all the mothers, we say "Thank you, Happy Mother's Day, and God bless".

Poetry about Life

I’ve been spending the majority of my free time over the past few weeks on a couple of projects on the main website. We’ve now taken down our original blog, which was more like a semi-blog with limited interactivity with our readers. The articles are now linked from various other sections according to their subject. Most can be found in our Religion and Culture, Christian Living, or Military and Patriotism sections. We’ll probably also link a few from this blog in the near future.

Next, we’ve finally completed our William "Poet Bill" Childers Poetry section that began about three years ago. Bill had published one book of poetry, Integrity of The Spirit, Escaping The Mind-Game!, and was working on his newest, to be tentatively called Leaves from the Acorn Tree. Unfortunately, health issues delayed, then finally canceled this project, so he graciously gave us the transcripts to publish on our website instead.

I met Poet Bill via one of my best friends, a Dallas Police Officer during the time that Bill was their precinct chaplain. Bill served as a USMC tank gunner in the Korean War before becoming an ordained Minister with the Methodist Church. He then returned to active duty with the US Navy for 21 years, including a year in Vietnam as a Chaplain with the 2nd Battalion, 9th Marines. After returning home to the First United Methodist Church in Dallas, Bill eventually retired but continued to teach Sunday School, where he often read his poetry and played his guitar. He even wrote a few songs.

Shortly after we met, his health failed and he was placed in assisted living. During my last visit, he told me how he couldn’t understand “the fuss some people made” over his poetry. He never thought of his poetry as anything special. As we talked about our various writings, we discovered a common experience. We both worked hard on many writings of which we were proud, yet they often were met with a ho-hum from readers. At other times, we wrote things out of a “sense of duty” that we didn’t think much of, only to receive glowing feedback from many folks. We could only explain this by God working though our imperfect efforts, proving once again that our works often return void, yet His never do.

After this last visit, I was sorry to hear that Bill was transferred to an out of the area facility, so we lost touch about two years ago. At the time, I had only published a small percentage of his poems. His computer had crashed, and I only had paper copies of the transcripts. I typically won’t publish anything by others on the website without reading it first. Since I’d never developed an appreciation for poetry, and didn’t know much about it (other than the Hebrew poetry of the Bible), I started to break my rule by scanning and running OCR software on the poems. I’m now very glad I didn’t. By re-typing them, I was able to read them in depth and discover many additional details about Bill since he wrote extensively of his life within his poetry.

Poet Bill wrote stories about his life, his friends, his family, his military service and so much more. I was very blessed to know him, even for a very short time. Yet, for those who knew him, it almost seems as if he’s still here every time we read one of his poems. We are very proud to publish Bill’s poetry and hope they bless our readers as much as they have us.

Motherhood – Where is My Wondering Boy Tonight?

On November 19, 1862, a child was born on an Iowa farm to a very godly mother. His father, who was serving in the Union Army, sent word to name him William Ashley. His father never saw him, dying of pneumonia when William was only four months old. His mother held out as long as she could, but eventually was forced to send her children to an orphanage. During his time, William was exposed to religion, read and gained some Bible knowledge, but didn’t become a Christian.

After high school, William worked as a firefighter and gained somewhat of a reputation because of his great speed. One day in 1833, as he was playing baseball on an sandlot in Chicago, a scout from the White Sox saw him and signed him to a contract. William was a great fielder, but not a good hitter, but his speed forced many opponent's errors, and his stolen base count was second only to Ty Cobb at the time.

Unfortunately, William’s career was marred by drinking, and he spent a lot of time on skid row. One night however, as he staggered down a street, he heard a Salvation Army group singing one of his mother’s favorite songs, “Where Is My Wandering Boy Tonight?”. Later that evening he wandered into the Pacific Garden Mission and gave his life to Christ. Soon after, William left the baseball diamond, turning down a $5000 monthly salary in baseball for the pulpit that paid about $85 a month.

Throughout his career, it is estimated that William preached to hundreds of millions and became the most successful evangelist of the early twentieth century. The combination of his celebrity background, business sense, and period of poverty attracted every class of people. Indeed, there were so many people being saved as a result of William's fiery preaching (250,000 to over a million by some estimates) that hundreds of pubs and bars were closing. Some even said that he was the most amazing evangelist since John the Baptist.

Yet, for the thousands of sermons preached by William Ashley (Billy) Sunday, one of the most famous was entitled “Motherhood”. Remembering his own saintly mother, he said

Being a king, emperor, or president is mighty small potatoes compared to being a mother. Commanding an army is little more than sweeping a street compared with training a boy or girl. The mother of Moses did more for the world than all the kings that Egypt ever had. Oh, you wait until you reach the mountains of eternity, then read the mothers’ names in God’s Hall of Fame. I tell you women: Fooling away your time, hugging and kissing a poodle dog, drinking a cocktail, and playing cards is mighty small business compared to molding the life of a child.

The entire Motherhood sermon can be read on our main website.

Armed Forces Bowl 2010

Yesterday, I had the great privilege of attending the Armed Forces Bowl with my two sons and a bunch of great friends. Due to construction on the Ft Worth stadium, the bowl was held in Dallas at SMU’s Gerald Ford Stadium. It was a tremendous experience, but to full appreciate it, I must tell of a couple of incidents that happened before we got to the game.

My older son Jeff, who attends SMU, had bought 16 tickets and went early with several friends. My younger son Justin, a US Marine who recently returned from Afghanistan, woke up to find his car had been burglarized, resulting in excessive damage, so Justin, his fiancé and I stayed behind to file the police reports. I found it ironic that he had spent nine months putting his life on the line to come home to this. We found out later that six other cars were hit in the area. Fingerprints confirmed that the same person was involved and that the police had a suspect.

Just about kickoff time, we left for the game and decided to take the DART train. I hadn’t ridden the train in a couple of years, but had good service with courteous drivers when I rode it regularly in the past. The three of us got our tickets and walked toward the 11:27am train at Parker Station, along with two other parties that we did not know. We asked the driver if this train was going by SMU and she motioned for us to get on. Unfortunately, she must have been an Obama supporter because, as soon as she noticed my son’s marine shirt, she locked the door and sped off, leaving us and the other two parties standing on the platform. We weren’t too upset at first since we encounter this every now and then, but in one of the other parties, a mother and her young child had attempted to board and she had to pull her child back at the last second, thus avoiding a tragic accident. So, we all waited another twenty minutes and took the next train to the game.

We arrived just as the halftime show was beginning, and what a contrast in attitude toward our veterans than what we experienced at the hands of DART. Many veterans received free tickets to the game. Dozens upon dozens of people shook my son’s hand and thanked him for his service. A stranger behind us served in the same marine unit as Justin 30 years before.

The halftime show consisted of various honors and awards for our troops. A group of local army graduates were sworn in. Many wounded warriors were introduced to thunderous applause. As a surprise, Operation Finally Home presented a mortgage-free, custom-built home to Army Specialist Hugo Gonzalez, an Army war veteran who was severely wounded while serving in Iraq. The program also pays the property taxes for the first two years. On hand was his wife Amy and their three children.

During the second half, a couple of the latest marine attack helicopters were on display, and we received satellite feeds on the big scoreboard from troops in Afghanistan wishing their families and supporters a Happy New Year. At the end of the third quarter, the troops who piloted the flyovers were introduced.

Lots of other stuff was happening, but it was too much to remember it all. Oh yeah… in the middle of all this was a good football game, in which the Army Black Knights defeated the SMU Mustangs 16-14.

Justin Back Safely from Afghanistan

We are overjoyed to relay the news that God has graciously returned our son Justin safely from the war zone in Afghanistan. He had been serving with his US Marine unit since early this year and arrived in Palm Springs, Ca about 3am Thursday morning. My wife Melody and future daughter-in-law Kayla were there to welcome him back. They are currently still visiting since he doesn't have to be back at base until Monday morning.

As only those who have fought in a war zone can fully imagine, Justin is having some minor difficulties adjusting but is certainly glad to be back in the states. Even though they were already considered engaged, Justin proposed and gave Kayla the ring at a scenic overlook yesterday. I’ll post pictures of the California trip in the next couple of weeks.

I’d like to personally thank all our readers, personal friends, and friends at work who have continually prayed for Justin while he was away. While all glory goes to God, we are especially grateful to the members of our local church, and particularly our Sunday School class, who spent time in prayer almost daily for Justin. It is popular these days to love Jesus but reject the local traditional church as irrelevant, but it’s times like these that “Internet churches”, “Relational churches”, the “Church at Starbucks” or the “Church of the Eighteenth Green” just doesn’t measure up. I have always maintained that our website ministry should always be supplemental to the local church, but never a substitute.

Although Justin is stateside for now, we ask that you continue to remember the troops (and their families) who are still bravely serving in harm’s way. Also, continue to remember the families of those who will not return safely. The first young man killed in Justin’s unit left a pregnant wife and a child he’ll never see. While we are rejoicing at Justin's safe return, there are others who are hurting, and we should mourn with them.

After his many close calls, Justin told us that he knew God was watching over him, and that he could feel the prayers of the folks back home. Therefore, to all the prayer warriors, we are forever in your debt. I think of all of you (and many who are unknown to us) every time I hear the Allen Asbury song:

Pressing over me like a big blue sky
I know someone has me on their heart tonight
That's why I know it's gonna be alright
'Cause somebody's praying me through
Somebody's praying me through

It may be my Mother, it might be my Dad
Or an old friend I've forgot I had
But whoever it is I'm so glad that
Somebody's praying me through
Somebody's praying me through

Through the tears, through the rain
Through the sorrow, through the pain
It keeps bringing me through
Over and over again

So when you're drowning in a sea of hurt
And it feels like life couldn't get any worse
There's a blessing waiting to push back the curse
'Cause somebody's praying you through
Somebody's praying you through

Someone got down on their knees and prayed for me
Somebody's, somebody's praying you through

Thanks again and God Bless our Troops!